Don’t want to lose anus
New member. Just received diagnosis with tumor 1cm from sphincter. Has anyone had a tumor shrunk and removed without losing their anus/sphincter and ability to poop normally? Any hope at all?
The idea of losing my body parts and changing my life forever, colostomy bag and whatnot as a single mom in her 40s is excruciatingly scary and depressing. Afraid of how I will manage chemo as a single mom but even more how to feel whole.
Desperate to hear hope that I might not lose ability to poop normally.
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Dr Behm was the name of the robotic surgeon there.
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1 ReactionSorry to hear of the diagnosis. They couldn’t prove cancer with me prior to surgery, so my surgeon, Dr D’Angelo got together with another young robotic surgeon at Mayo in Rochester, MN, and they resected my rectum and saved me from having permanent colostomy bag. It was after pathology came back that they found 2 cancers in it and a few months later, I started Chemo/radiation protocol. My oncologist at same location is Dr Halfdanarson. Hope this helps some.
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2 ReactionsHi, @trishdep189, can you share your surgeon name? I am in CT Hartford region. I have a tumor 1.4 cm away from anus, and looking for help. Thanks.
Hi, @amariewilkinson, I am diagnosed as having a tumor 1 .4 cm away from anus. Can you share your hospital and surgeon info? Currently I am offered neoadjuvant therapy before surgery, but I am not sure whether this is the best option. I am concerned about spreading. Thanks.
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1 ReactionI too had my tumor removed from my sphincter muscle in November. I had no chemo or radiation and my last scan came out clean. It took a bit yo heal but I have no issues with going to the bathroom. Hoping I will never have to go thru it again. My surgeon was in Stamford, CT and my oncologist in NYC at Sloan.
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1 ReactionWhere did you have this performed and what doctor?
My husband just had surgery to remove tonsil and 63 lymph nodes from his neck around October 2022. I just found out yesterday that it was HPV related cancer. Now I’m having issues by my privates to anus my skin has turned white and gyn Dr did a biopsy on me a week ago. Won’t know results for another 2 weeks. This is freaking me out! My husband of 40 some years in our earlier years I didn’t know but he had a second hidden lifestyle. He’s had multiple affairs he was a drunk too! So but after 2nd rehab I he finally kicked the drinking. I finally after a year started to forgive him and slowly the trust came back. Since he had HPV does that mean I have it now? I just thought it was a rash that needs a steroid cream!!!
Thanks for asking, Colleen. I had a few challenging side effects from chemo-radiation. First, I had some very painful bowel spasms, urgency and pain passing stools starting in the second week. The team prescribed dicyclomine and that did seem to calm the spasms. Ibuprofen was surprisingly helpful with pain overall.
Second, the skin burn from the radiation got very significant over time, reaching a peak the week or two after treatment ended. It got very painful to be in a car, to get in and out of bed, sitting in certain positions... The team had started me on moisturizing from even before the treatment started and about halfway through prescribed an ointment that was Aquaphor with lidocaine and that seemed to help. I'm happy to say that a month after treatment ended, my skin is mostly healed. It's so nice to have smooth, soft butt again! It's encouraging to see the healing capacity of the body.
Sidenote: throughout my treatment, people would tell me how good I looked. I joked to my wife that sometimes I wanted to say, "Oh yeah, wanna see my butt?" (I did not say that...).
Finally the fatigue and brain fog were a challenge as the treatment progressed and continued after for a few weeks. I have a busy job and a couple of times, I just cleared my calendar for a morning of peace and quiet at home. In addition to all the physical symptoms, going through these treatments, we are living our lives in two worlds, including a parallel universe of uncertainty and new concerns and worries. I think it's important to be gentle with oneself.
One instinctual response I had to this whole process was to withdraw internally, somewhat silently and invisibly to those around me. But I needed the internal quiet and space. It reminded my of what I felt naturally and unexpectedly after my mom passed away. A space opened up inside that was where my sadness and need to reflect was made possible. It was a private space that I think it's important to notice and make room for in your life when going through something like this.
Hope this is helpful. It was helpful to write it! Love and encouragement to all on this journey,
Rich
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7 ReactionsWonderful! Thank you. Congratulations!
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1 ReactionI'm tagging @jenmo to make sure she sees your helpful post, @happygrandpa. Holding light and really hoping that the surgeon is able to confirm that you've had a complete tumor response and may be able to avoid having surgery at this time. I'll be anxious to get your update.
Rich, what help you manage the challenges and side effects of chemo-radiation?
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