Coming to Terms with Loss

Hello @samcal9977zz,

You certainly are dealing with a lot of losses, and I can understand that you are feeling the need to share with others. While sharing on a forum like this is helpful, perhaps some professional counseling would be best for you. A trained counselor might help you to put these losses in perspective. Given all that you have experienced some medication might also be in order help you now.

Have you consulted with a trained therapist or seen a psychiatrist for some mental health medications?

Of course, like anyone else who goes through these issues, I see a therapist.

Thanks for your concern.

I'm glad to hear that @samcal9977zz. It is important to maintain that therapeutic relationship. Professional counseling is important.

Do you have a background in professional counseling?

by the way, I am just out of the hospital. Physical medical problems, not mental health issues.

Was quite near death. Am still close to death.

Not up for much communication right now.

Thank you.

No, I am not a professional counselor, but I do understand the value of professional help when losses and chronic health problems accumulate. I understand how overwhelming it can be.

Take care and rest well from your hospitalization. Post again when you need to share.

Is there a block or ignore function on here?

Seems like some people just come on here to foment argumentation.

I think they call it "trolling" and "flamebaiting."

I would certainly encourage all people who participate in that activity to not do so to people who are sick and vulnerable.

And, of course, noting, that a conscious attempt to harass a sick person is definitely a criminal act, actionable in court.

to Theresa..

of course, not referring to you, just in general.

@samcal9977zz You ask how others have come to terms with loss. As you have noted, there are so many types of loss, aren't there?

For me, how I cope is determined often by the type of loss, and how it affects different aspects of my life. Sometimes I write a letter, or draw a picture, or do some creative outreach to that loss. It could be losing someone close to me, writing a letter to them and letting them know how not having them around now feels to me. That loss could be from a separation of heart, or the person has crossed over. I don't intend to mail it off, just put it aside and look at it again several months later, to see how I have moved on. Loss of a lifestyle due to a health issue has prompted me to journal often about the condition, and how it has affected my life now. Again, accepting the challenge to "keep on keeping on". Sometimes it might be temporary, sometimes more permanent, so understanding all there is to learn and how it applies to me is important.

Everyone seems to have to find what works best for them, and really continue to seek out the "just right" combination, acknowledging it might change, and that's okay! I have used professional therapy, low dose depression medications [citalopram], art therapy, talk therapy, journaling, and plain old exercise [usually simple walking]. in various forms and combinations. For me, the hardest step is always understanding that there has been something happen that might be affecting me, and being open to dealing with that loss. Sometimes we don't see it right away, until we look backwards a bit.

What have you found to be the most beneficial way you have dealt with losses in your life? Do you find it true, also, that sometimes we need to look backwards a bit to see that loss has affected us?
Ginger

@samcal9977zz,

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