Abandoned and alone

Im 78 and feel abandoned by my kids too. Its my perception, not the reality. They just have their own lives. My life was always about them and even though I always worked outside the home, they were what mattered to me. I feel like they dont need my anymore (which they dont in a practical sense) but I long for the times we spent together and miss being their mom. So even tho my situation seems less painful than yours, I understand that feeling. If Im not a mom and grandmother involved in their lives, who am I and what do I do??

Hi Panamagloria,
I'm so sorry you are in this situation. It must be very hard not seeing your grandchildren and your daughter not speaking to you! I have a similar situation. My son hasn't spoken to me in 30 years. Like you, I don't know why. There was no disagreement or anything. Also my husband died a year ago so now I'm totally alone. I'm 79 and most of our friends and family are all dead and up in Heaven. I have just given all of my concerns up to God. I pray often and my prayers get answered. God is there for us. We just have to ask for his help. I even told God that I was giving my son back to him so maybe he could straighten him out.

I have accepted the fact that I am now alone and probably will be for the rest of my life. I started cleaning my house thoroughly. When I was caring for my husband with cancer the last year of his life much of the heavy cleaning got neglected. So now, I'm trying to do it a little each day. The flower gardens need work also. Find something that can make you feel useful and happy. It doesn't have to be cleaning. That's just me! Maybe join a group at a Senior Center or find a church you like. This forum is very useful in finding many nice people who are having problems too. Someone is always there to talk to and it helps. I've been comforted by people on here many times since my husband died. They take the loneliness away.

I hope things work out better for you. I'll say a prayer for you.
PML

Precious Folks, The two things human beings need is to be loved and to be needed in life. I am so sorry
for the way things have turned out for some of you.

You are loved by God and I am praying for you right now. Please keep reaching out on here. People care and
love you and there are so many good people on this site. Blessings & Prayers....