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@mjg7

I lost my husband of 35 years and I’ve been surprised (and dismayed) at the physical effect grief has had on me. I knew I would be heartbroken but I’ve also had Covid and a UTI and sciatica and spells where I get weak, shaky and jumpy. I keep wondering if this is my body’s way of diverting emotional pain into physical pain.

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Jan 21 9:17pm

@mjg7, it sounds like your body is telling you to take care of you. How recent is your loss? Was your husband ill for a time before his passing?

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Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | Jan 22 8:13am

@mjg7- The mind and body are connected in ways I don't understand. Rest assured that you aren't going crazy! I felt all of those things and still have some of them.

I lost my husband of 45 years 9 months ago and it's as if it were yesterday in many ways. Fatigue is one of them. I still don't eat right and have had a UTI recently. It's easy for people to lovingly point out that my body is telling me to take better care, but for people in mourning " it's a whole other thing."

First off there isn't the ability to think straight, especially in the early months. There's an unconscious numbing effect that makes it very difficult to think straight, even putting two words together was difficult for me.

I'm very glad that you are taking care of your sciatica. I've had it and it's awful. I had to have an operation and I broke my back while taking care of my husband.

When you feel shaky try and at least drink some orange juice and eat some protein. That helped me.

Please see a grief counselor. It's very helpful and will help you through the process.

Merry

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