totally agreed that this form can and will help, I have learned so much,have been able to vent,and also have heard stories from actual people who have been through same senirios. so glad and thankful for this forum everyday, as I like I would feel so much more lost without it. also I would like to thank all the caring compassionate people out there that have answered questions,gave advice and just down right cared even by just sending a hug if they don't have a comment. thank you all and God bless!