How do you deal with aging?

Thanks, I just ordered one.

@prcrowe
Yes, on my own I've added pasta, more potato and avocado as well as making healthy snacks (3 bean pasta salad, potato salad, and raw nuts). I try to remember to lift my 2 lb hand weights when watching a video or on a long phone call, or on hold.
But having a support group would help keep me on track as well as provide encouragement for others wanting it.

Here's something interesting that is on the Mayo Clinic site & might answer some of your weight gain concerns.
What's a good way to gain weight if you're underweight?
Eating nutritious foods that are high in calories is a good way to gain weight. It's also important to understand the reason why you're underweight.
Being underweight can be defined in a couple of ways. It can mean low weight for a person's height, defined as a body mass index (BMI) of less than 18.5. It also could be weight that is 15 to 20% below the typical weight for a person's age.
Eating more frequently. Slowly begin to eat 5 to 6 smaller meals during the day.
Choosing food with lots of nutrients. Set up a routine to eat and drink things you like and that have a lot of nutrients as well as calories. Talk with your health care provider or dietitian about how many calories to eat a day or in each meal. You also can ask how many servings you should eat of the different food groups.
Top it off. Add extras to your dishes for more calories, such as cheese in casseroles or nut butter on whole-grain toast. You also can add dry milk or liquid milk to foods for extra protein and calories. Some examples are mashed potatoes or soups. Try smoothies and shakes. Avoid beverages with few nutrients or calories, such as diet soda. But a blend of high-calorie, nutritious ingredients in a smoothie or shake can help if you're eating on the go. Meal replacement drinks also may be part of your weight-gain effort. But watch what and when you drink. Beverages can make you feel full. If that's the case for you, avoid drinking during a meal or before. But make sure you are drinking enough throughout the day. Exercise. Exercise, especially strength training, can help you gain weight by building up your muscles. Exercise also may stimulate your appetite.
There also are medicines that help boost the feeling of hunger.
Katherine Zeratsky, R.D., L.D.

For @nemo1
Thanks for the suggestion. My physician recommended Ensure but I recalled hearing it had synthetic sweeteners, artificial colors and a rather nauseating taste, so didn't consider it. However, this Juven, loaded with amino acids and collagen is apparently recommended by surgeons and is intended for healing after surgery. It could add to weight gain also. I hope it helps your family member.
I'll probably try it. But I'm still looking for an online weight gain support group.

I am 90 years old. Hard for me to believe it. I do all the driving, I play golf 2x a week have a significant guy who is 88 has moved in. My attitude is to do things everyday. Use your mind, I play bridge 4x a week and being with other people give me energy. Keep reading and stay current with current events. My only concern is that I have hypertension but that is being monitored. Have a positive attitude and enjoy life to it’s fullest.

This is a great topic! However, it appears answers are based on sickness and caretaking and shifted from the author's original question, "How do you emotionally handle aging and knowing that you only have a limited number of years left in your life?"

Personally, my husband and I don't associate age with lifespan.
Death can occur at any age. We live in a society where baby boomers are attending their children and children's children funerals.

How do I handle aging? With gratitude. I tell God throughout my day thank you for everything. I am so thankful for all God has given me. I could have been dead sleeping in my grave but God made old dead behave. Lord you are so good.

We all got a date with death. I believe there's a heaven and a hell and I always tell people don't let death catch you in your sins.

Like you we are fairly healthy but enjoying retirement. We choose not to work our life away but use the rest of our days doing things we didn't do when we were parenting. Road Trips!!! 🎺Jazz Concerts!!! Sleeping in! Volunteer Work! Contractors Work when we want to! We are living our best life not focusing on death, toxic relationships or rainy days and Mondays.😁

We are retired and going to live, love, laugh, eat, drink, take time to smell the roses, and be happy together until God say times up.

I really don't know what to make of what I have been reading. My initial feeling is that you obsess too much on your age. It's not the numbers. It's how you feel. I acknowledge that some of you have serious ailments that complicate things and must be factored into the equation. But for the rest of us we (or I) just keep going on. I am 89 years old. I lost my husband two years ago. We had been married for 59 years and it is still rough. However I am living independently. With the help of a cleaning person who comes every three weeks, I am able to do everything myself. I am also able to drive myself wherever I need to go. Even on the freeways. It's true I am not making any long range plans, but I have a cruise planned for the summer. As long as my health stays the way it is I am just going to go on without letting my age take over.

One thing I did not mention. Although I realize ‘social media ‘ is an important and necessary way for people to keep in touch, I am not in any of those groups ( except here 🙂 ). I do have a pen pal of over 30 years, it started as a thing for people wanting a rural lifestyle ( the whole shebang with animals etc). Well that never worked out until I moved to 6 acres 18 months ago. But I did connect with a lady with a background similar to mine. She never got her rural lifestyle either except for gardening. I have no animals now and probably will never have any. But she & I have written each other for over 30 years & call each
other sister. I never had one though she does. We both have health concerns, hers more serious than mine. But we look forward to each other’s letters ( yes written and mailed!). We change Christmas & birthday gifts. I hope to meet her on a future trip, she is 3 states away.

You sound absolutely amazing! I definitely want to be just like YOU in 10 years!! 🙂

You certainly have a wonderful attitude about aging. Your comments about everything you and your husband are doing in retirement reminded me of something my mother said years ago. She retired at 65 and made a conscious decision to keep active. She volunteered for so many organizations (all involved with helping people) that she commented that she was "busier" than the years she was working fulltime! 🙂