Totally can relate. I was in a terrible relationship when I was diagnosed the first time in 2007. No, a metastatic diagnosis and although my relationship isn't terrible, it is strained. I am ok with my diagnosis, but my husband deals with it differently. I think he sees me with one foot in the grave so he is depressed, so he drinks, and he has PTSD so we have a lot going on. I can understand the relation though.