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Lonely beyond words but autistic, dealing with death of only friend.
Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Jan 15 11:01am | Replies (20)Comment receiving replies
Your friend sounds like an amazing person. I don't think she'd want you to put yourself or your well-being at risk by attending. I'm sure she'd rather you grieve and pay your respects in ways that are more comfortable for you. Maybe you can visit the grave site on your own time, when your husband is able to drive you. It might be easier too, when there aren't so many people around.
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Your comment, about going to the grave on my own time really struck the chord. I also know that Kelli knew me well enough, and my avoidance of a lot of situations, that she would understand. It's today at 3 and I've already told her mom I can't be there and why. She said she'd miss me being there but that she "COMPLETELY" understands. Yeah, I'm a mom and I wouldn't wish losing a child on a worst enemy. My heart breaks for her mom. If it had been a Celebration of Life, (and obviously at a different time so I could be driven) I would have been much more open to the experience. I've decided that I don't do funerals. I never want to be buried, just cremate me and have a celebration of my life.