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@sunnyflower Hi there, Sunny. My heart breaks that you even had to feel you needed lists to share with your daughters to defend yourself and prove you need their help and their love. This is so awful, so unnatural. Good, caring daughters would be attune to you, naturally. This just kills me inside. And to then write to us, telling us here that a daughter said she spoke with her other siblings and they said they did not want to be "enabling?" How sick do you have to get, before they just help you? This infuriates me. You poor, poor, lady. I am sure they will say how much they loved you after you are gone. Just words. Love should be practiced and witnessed while we are still alive. I am heartsick from your daughters, Sunny. You give so much. And by the way, I have only one son, and he is no better. Perhaps I did something wrong as a parent, a long time ago, because he doesn't seem to connect with my pain at all. If he does, he does not show it. My love to you, Sunny. Lori Renee
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Thx Lori. My heart aches so much about this. It keeps me awake at night. I have tissue by my bedside bc that's a common time for the tears to roll.
My kids tell me they love me and say incredible, meaningful things in cards but you're right, what will it take?
To be fair, they have huge hearts and servant hearts but are extremely busy with their large families. At the same time, they are always serving others. I think they rest on the fact that I have such a good husband. Plus, I do not like to ask for help. I do not want to be a burden.
My daughter who has adopted four of their foster children and is about to adopt a fifth, a year old baby that has been with us since birth, also works two jobs from home. A great mother. Overly busy. Same with my younger daughter. 5 kids, overcommitted life. My sons would help some, were I to ask but are so busy too.
I agree with you and realize that I am excusing them, probably because it hurts too much to admit the truth.
I appreciate your kind thoughts and words. Blessings, Sunny