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@sunnyflower It hurt you that your daughters alluded that, "they did not want to enable" you and caused resentment between the three of you.

You are carrying heavy emotional burdens that I imagine a therapist could help you sort through. I'm not sure where your daughters are coming from. For now I'll give them the benefit of the doubt and say that there may be a misunderstanding or that it is easier for them to blame you for your illness than deal with the grief of your diminished quality of life. A therapist may also be able to mediate between you and your daughters and help clear up any misunderstandings.

I'm wondering if you'd consider seeing a therapist virtually?

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Hello @sunnyflower,

I read your post as well as Erika's, @erikas, response and I feel for both you and your daughters. I agree that involving a therapist would be a very good idea for you.

I also wonder if you have considered getting some help for your transportation and care needs from outside of your family on occasion? Perhaps a friend or your church or other county organization could provide some help assisting you? Having such help even one day a week might be a good thing.

Family members do not always have the physical or emotional capacity to care for someone who has chronic illnesses. Some outside help will often relieve that burden and help your family to understand that you care about their needs as well as your own.

Is this something you might discuss with your daughters?

Hello Erica, there does not appear to be any resentment Among Us. Everything seems loving and well like usual. I just don't think they know how I feel about it because I didn't address that, one daughter alluded to the fact that the other said that they did not want to enable me. They said it amongst themselves and I'm pretty sure the daughter who apparently said it, does not know I know about it. I find it hard to stand up for myself. And again, they know I have such a loving tentative husband who does errands and buys groceries Etc and they have seen how he takes good care of me. My husband actually loves to do errands and buy groceries. Go figure, what a gift to me! Take care, Sunny 😊.