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Family is hard. My parents finally believe the pain I’m in but they are here in town. My brother still believes I am exaggerating and my son has lived with my husband’s pain and surgeries his whole life. He compares mine to his which are not the same. CRPS is worse but I gave up.
My other family ignores it and pretend I’m “fine.” They are not in the same state or region but I really wish they would try harder to understand and read about it because they could give mom and dad support.
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Renee, That's a bummer for sure. I'm very sorry to hear this. A therapist suggested that those who love you don't want you to be ill so it's easier for them to be ignorant and /or in denial. They don't want to lose you. Also, people fear more will be required in a relationship with an afflicted person so they distance themselves. They feel it will be an unequivalent relationship but they rob themselves bc we have so much to give.
Being close to someone who is suffering reminds them of their own mortality and vulnerability ; that they could become ill. Also, they don't want you to be hurting. It's awkward and uncomfortable for them bc they don't know how to comfort you or what to do.
Oy vey, such a problem! Thus, the need and purpose for this blog!!
Take good care of yourself, Sunnyflower. 🙏😊🤗🌹