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Loss and Grief: How are you doing?
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My situation is similar to yours, Marilyn.
We were married 50 years and my husband was also not dying-he broke his leg and was gone within three months .
Except for occasionally meeting my college friends for lunch, I find it difficult to socialize and make plans because our plans, trips, socializing were things done as a couple. Most of my life revolves around children and grandchildren, but yet I am alone and after three years it is still very difficult to accept.
I will also try the writing as Merry has suggested…..
Most of my life revolves around my children and grandchildren .
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Good morning, @menkcizma. It's nice to meet you. I wish that it were easier to meet, but then it wouldn't be the same. Connect!
Shortly after David died I suddenly realized that I was in a different social group! I was no longer part of a couple but "the other woman", "single" or the "widow". I realized after my husband's funeral and I was looking around at my family and friends. Everyone was attached to someone else! I'm sure that you all know what I mean!
I have gone out several times for dinner and drinks. I love doing this. I once went to a neighborhood watering hole, but it wasn't a busy night and I sat there by myself and felt very awkward and didn't even finish my beer.
I'm certainly not ready to be someone's companion, but I do wish to hear more masculine voices or a hand on my back guiding me into a place.
I used to love the idea of crowds, but now they are only a nuisance. Being in my late 70's and my husband just 80 we had already felt that way, especially with his walker.
Ok, I'm rambling...have a nice day, ladies!
Merry