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@faithwalker007
Thank you, Renee. It's true that my pain threshold is lower than my wife's. When our kids were young, our son would fall to the floor and writhe in agony over any little owie. But when our daughter cried, we knew it was serious. We were on the way to town one day (a 3 hour drive each way at the time), and she said her stomach was hurting. It took some time and discussion to conclude that she should probably go to the ER, which she did, barely in time before her appendix burst.
It's good to have your perspective on things. I'll try to remember not to compare my pain with what I consider much worse pain in someone else.
Jim
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@jimhd @faithwalker007
I am a morning person and my wife is a night owl. The time I dread is when I have just gotten up from sleep and walk into the living room to see her. Many nights she has been in her worst pain of the day for most of the 6 hours I was asleep. I can usually tell how she is immediately, and usually it's not good. It's one, two or all three of her worst issues. Tonight it was her feet (heels mainly) that were the worst. Ever since we have fallen into living life day by day with her agony always there at the forefront, it has been genuinely depressing. She is a pretty unhappy camper. Her personality is now so different than it was a few short years ago. It's such a sad way to live and I am at the point where there isn't much I can do to help her. She copes, but she can barely get any enjoyment from life much of the time.
I feel very deep compassion, I seem to have a large capacity for that, but that doesn't do much in the end. It's disheartening. I will tell you one thing though, it makes those rare days where she feels fairly pain free and seems kind of happy (who wouldn't?) a real joy to live through. And they do happen occasionally.