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Loss and Grief: How are you doing?
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@thisismarilynb- You ask how much time you have. My question is what kind of time do you want? I lost my husband after 45 years and it's as if we grew up together. I was barely thirty when we became life partners, and now that's over. Our life was rich, not just in our love but in the things that we did together, the things that we talked about, things that we shared.
I am sorry for the pain that you feel and know it well. But since you are alive and want to hold on to your grief why don't you write about your life together? It doesn't matter what kind of writer you are and no one needs to see it, although that would be a shame. I believe that everyone's life has meaning and needs to be remembered, somehow.
Merry
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I found your comment "want to hold on to your grief" interesting. Is that the impression I am giving? I didn't think so. But I guess I will have to rethink this. Your description of your life with your husband sounds very much like mine. We were married longer. So does that make a difference? I did ask my therapist about this. She did say that when you are older when you lose your spouse your grief is worse. And that's the topic we were talking about because I asked her why I was not "getting over" my deep grief. I have heard a lot about journaling and someone even gave me a book. But I tried and it is not for me. My husband is and will be remembered by a lot of people. He was a teacher and had influence on many of his students - in a good way. Me not so much.