I started a reply, and it disappeared before I was finished, so will try again!
$35/hour for private care is min. In the Seattle area. And, retirement communities run anywhere from $5,800 and up. Mostly up. Then, if you need assisted care in the facility, add by level of care - $1,500 to at least $5,000….
You are right… it’s all expensive….. And, quality of care differs from State to State. More and more facilities are dropping Medicaid and taking private pay only residence now…. At least in our area.