We live in Colorado, so we understand long winters. My husband was also the picture of health, had all his original parts, and never had to have a surgical procedure for anything, so putting in the port and the feeding tube were scary for him. But we focused on how this would help him. Every person is different. Your husband may not have the side effects my husband had. But ask a lot of questions and do everything you can to make him more comfortable as problems arise.

It sounds like you need to find a way to manage your fears. I found that I had to stay in the present to keep my fears at bay. Do you have any family members nearby for support? Or support from your church if you have one? We had no family nearby but our neighbors and friends were wonderful once they knew our situation. Also, having a lot of people sending John cards and email messages helped keep our spirits up.

Remember, your doctor said this is very treatable. That is really positive news for a newly diagnosed cancer patient. Focus on that, and let people know what is happening so they can give you emotional support.