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Grief in Times of Celebration: The Empty Spot

Loss & Grief | Last Active: Dec 26, 2023 | Replies (36)
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@thisismarilynb

My holiday season has passed. So many people either forget or do not even know that not everyone celebrates Christmas. So this is the second year that my husband is gone. Last year I did nothing. This year I lit the candles. When it was over I realized I could not do this again. Contrary to what many say, looking back at memories of happy times do not help me. It only makes me grieve more that there will never be any more memories to make.

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Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | Dec 22, 2023

@thisismarilynb- I understand how you feel. You're right, there won't be any more memories with your husband. But you can make your own yourself and the other people in your life. Even looking back and seeing the strength that you have had to have is one memory. You don't need to think about what you might not be able to do again. But what you can do this day, this month? Looking ahead just brings into play what we won't have instead of what we do.

Have you considered a grief counselor to help you? I don't know what I would do without mine.

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