When diagnosed, I started reading everything I could on the disease, including white papers. I asked my Urologist so many questions he couldn't answer that he sent me to an oncologist for answers. The oncologist he sent me to also couldn't answer my questions satisfactorily, and he sent me to an oncologist who was a leading local prostate cancer researcher. I attribute my excellent support to my unending list of complicated questions and positing questions they could not answer. (If they would have answered me, I would have been happy.) After discovering they couldn't answer my questions, I asked them if they knew someone who I could talk to for answers. Being good doctors, they felt obligated to send me to someone who could help. It was my intention, and I expected them to refer me to someone. I don't know if this was needed, but it was how it turned out for me. I wasn't going to settle for not getting the answers I needed.

I don't know if this is the formula for getting your advice, but it worked for me. I felt that asking them to recommend someone was the key to getting what I needed.