Hello,
We started my husband's journey a week after my younger sister died of breast cancer. It's been an emotional roller coaster ride. All of our retirement plans have changed. He has always been my rock and it breaks my heart to see him so anxious and depressed.
Lately we agree to have cancer free weekends which has helped. We are trying not to let it consume us but it IS consuming. He uses the LOSE IT app (not to lose weight but to maintain weight and avoid more weight loss). It allows him to track calories, water and protein. Someone suggested using Boost Plus, add ice cream and root beer- high calorie shakes which he enjoys. He is getting his Gtube and Port next week. I made him a daily log for tracking his temp, mouth care (after meals and bedtime), anti-nausea med times. Bought Tide Free & Gentle detergent to protect his skin while getting radiation treatments. We hope the chemo and radiation puts him in remission and he doesn't need surgery.
We pushed the Doctors to be upfront and not sugar coat his prognosis. The more we know the more informed we are to make life changing decisions. Wishing you the very best. Caring thoughts to all!