in reply to @dougkeon Exactly. My sister was here on Monday, and over the weekend I had texted her that I had been having chest pains as a result of the stress from being a caregiver, and that I was also concerned about some lab tests I had to get today. Not one word was mentioned to me about either issue. As I was walking her out the door to her car, she mentioned my current UTI (I am laughing as I type this, seriously), and she said, "well that doesn't cause chronic diarrhea, do you have IBS?" Now we are nearing the neighbor's door, and I tell her, no I do not have IBS, but rather ulcerative colitis. "What do they do for that?" Nothing. Finally we got to her car, and said to me, "when people ask me how I am, I say, "I'm good." I reminded her that our mother did teach us to speak better than that, and that "good" is generally talking about the weather. Besides that, she is not "good" but rather a zombie because of some new medication that has caused a 360 in her personality and memory. I have learned not to share anything "medical" related with her, as this was the reason my other sister stopped talking to me years ago. She claimed some "life coach" who she spoke to on the phone told her to tell me she only wanted to talk about recipes. "There is always something wrong with you."
The last time I mentioned something "medical" to her, she dared to say, "get over it. you have nothing to complain about, you have a nice apartment and a lovely garden."
Interestingly enough, a few weeks ago she did send me a link that contained some great comebacks when someone asks how you are doing, and I have found them to be very helpful. My favorites are, "I plead the fifth" and "Why don't you go first?" Some of the responses really do catch people off guard, such as " I am wondering how you are."

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