Wow! Just finished reading all these posts. There were many times when I got the feeling that you were looking at it backwards. You condemned people whom you thought said cruel things to you. I didn't get that impression. I felt they really were trying to help and be supportive, but they just didn't have the words. Instead of accepting this, you scorned them. I have depression on and off all my life. Now I am coming to the end and I am all alone. But when I am confronted with certain situations I go "dumb." I just cannot think of the proper words so I, too, will say something that may not be appropriate. They really are trying to help but they just don't know how to do it.