This is a great topic to discuss. I remember a time when I lost a lot of weight (and I’m thin to begin with) some people said “oh, you look great. It looks like you’ve lost weight!”. Yeah, I lost weight because I was very depressed and anxious. It’s a painful time in my life to even think about now - two of the administrators at the university where I worked were bullying and harassing me. I even hired an attorney who advised me that they weren’t violating any employment laws. One of my friends knew, though, that something was “wrong” and was very supportive. She knew that losing that much weight was not a good thing for me and got me out of the house to do fun things together.

Why do we worry about saying something that we think might hurt the person’s feelings after they’ve already said something hurtful to us? I wish I had a quick comeback. In my case, I kept my problems very quiet but in retrospect I wish I would have said “Yup, it’s the depression and anxiety diet”.