Hi Silvergirl29,
What a confusing situation. I would suggest putting your procedure on hold for a while. My husband has lung cancer and he had a lobectomy. It was just fine! A lobectomy can be put on hold for a little while. In the meantime, do as much research about the surgeon or surgeons you may have do the lobectomy. Start doing a Google search with just their name and go from there. The one you were referred to doesn't sound like the best. Perhaps you could find a better one. Both good and bad things can happen with medical procedures. It's your body and your money. You are in charge. Do what you feel is best. Pray about it and put it all in God's hands. I will say a prayer for you also.
Best wishes,
PML