I'm sorry about your diagnosis, I can't imagine what and how this must affect you. I'm glad you're here. There are a lot of good people here and although I am not familiar with your diagnosis through personal experience (I have imagined it myself!), there are people, moderators, who will give you helpful suggestions and guidance to more areas within Mayo, this being one of them I believe, and there may be people here who are or have dealt with the same experience. Is your bladder diagnosis in any way connected with an enlarged prostate, retaining urine? Is the bladder cancer "secondary" to the primary problem that caused all of this in the first place? Perhaps your doctor didn't tell you? They have a habit of doing that.