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Sorry grandma. Our pain becomes our ideniry. I noonger discuss it with my children. I know they are sick of hearing about it. They just want me to live. I am moving into an Independent facility. My choice. My kids are grown and need time of their own. They will love me until I die. But I want them to have a normal life. My never ending pain stops that. At least my move is my choice.
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@oregongirl
I think you are right about pain becoming part of our identity!
You say you want to live your life so you are moving into an independent facility.
You also say it is your choice.
Is it really?
You sound as if you are doing it to give your children the time they need on their own.
I wonder, does that mean you are REALLY happy to be going or do you feel foreced to move because of your kids?
Food for thought.
Of course you family will love you until you die.
I would hope that is true for all of us (although I know it isn't).
Good luck with your move and I hope you find what you are looking for.
Ronnie
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@oregongirl Believe me, I know about not talking any more with the family about what is happening. I need treatment, but my wife and children are fighting it every step of the way, and my Primary is worse. They all say, Look. You are 80. You are going to die soon anyway, so why treat it. I have about 8 doctors I see more or less regularly, and only one of them makes any effort. I went for 75 years not knowing what the problem is, and I guess they are all tired of hearing about it.