Hi Sheila. Welcome! This is a very warm and helpful group. I am shocked, however, you were refused treatment at Mayo. Their reputation is stellar around the world. On another note, chronic pain is no picnic and learning to put yourself first is hard to do. Recently, I read a gem and have been trying to practice it. I'm not letting this pain define me. I'm Learning that we teach others how to treat us by not roosting on their comments, actions and/or attitudes. As well you will find many suggestions here and you just might find one or two that work for you. Best to you.