I started with a therapist who was paid by my insurance. He was okay but I had to drive so far to get to his office I was a wreck when I got there. And then, of course, I had to drive back. I soon realized this was not working and stopped. Then I saw an ad from Better Help on Facebook, so I checked on that. Even though I would have to pay for it myself, their rates were more reasonable and I got so lucky to get a therapist who really understood me. I worked with her for a year. Then we stopped "formal" meetings. I am not out of the woods yet and probably never will be. I am still in touch with my therapist and we skype every so often. Depending on your beliefs, you can find bereavement groups that I heard help a lot. I don't like them because too many of the people rely on "God." That is not my way. There is a group in the community where I live but I do not attend. I want to go to heal not to feel annoyed because I am not allowed to believe the way I want to. Also I was told that physciatrists usually prescribe drugs for depression so I should stay away from them. My list of allergies is longer than the list of drugs I take, which is only three. If you have a good relationship with your primary doctor, I would start with her/him. Then look around your community for bereavement groups. Good luck.

I am so sorry for your loss. I can just say that I went to my insurance in network provider online locator and searched the city for therapy. Certain providers at this one counseling agency looked interesting. I read their profiles and found 2 that looked particularly qualified. I called and spoke with one of them, who referred me to his colleague, since he had more experience with patients who have health issues. Then, I had a chat session with him and we both felt it was a good fit. I’ve had 2 full sessions so far.