I am estranged from my daughter and, in that estrangement, then I am also estranged from my only two granddaughters [twins], so it makes it additionally hard. I have sought counseling and I know that I need to accept it and move on, but when you don't know what happened to cause the estrangement, I am finding this nearly impossible. I have worked for years to reconnect with my daughter, but to no avail. We were very close and I was extremely close to my granddaughters. I just don't understand why she won't tell me what changed, what happened, to cause the estrangement. There was a stupid incident with her husband, which should not be causing this, but I have never been invited back to their home since. The girls were in grade school and they just turned 18. It breaks my heart and I don't know how to heal. My counselor thinks it may be a control issue by my son-in-law, even bordering on abuse of my daughter, and that tears me up to even think of her going through that when I can't help her. Again, I know I should move on, but she is my only child and the girls are my only grandchildren, so how do you give up on people you love so much? It is beyond my comprehension.
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