Scott, @danab -I wrote to my donor family and I received a letter from them. But before I received it, the donor network notified me and asked whether I wanted to receive the letter. I was told that the donor family gets the same option of whether or not to accept the letter. This is because of the many deeply sensitive issues that accompany the sudden loss of a loved one when the family is still grieving. I also learned that addresses change often and the donor network is not able to reach them.