A diagnosis of breast cancer, any cancer, is terrifying. When I got my treatment plan from my doctor, I found out that chemo was a part of it, and that was terrifying, too. Luckily, I had a great therapist who helped me see that in a different light. I have mentioned several times on this forum, that chemo was not as bad as I imagined.

But here is what I haven't said. I don't get why so many here are talking about decisions about whether to do this or that. I followed my oncologist's plan to the letter. I had chemo, lumpectomy, biological infusions, radiation, and medication. My oncologist never gave me a choice, he gave me the plan. He gave me a rational for everything; he answered my questions before I asked them. I trusted that he knew how to take care of me. Everything worked out. I had a brilliant, caring, experienced oncologist and he teamed with a highly respected surgeon and radiation oncologist. I have been clear since 2015.

So, if you have doubts about your doctor, get another one. I'd be leery of an oncologist who left the decisions up to me. However, there is one decision that I think is personal and that is whether or not to have reconstruction. I did not have to face that one.