@wlhickey, so many emotions! I know you have loads of questions. While surgery asap is being recommended, you have time for questions and, if necessary, a second opinion. Questions I would ask include:
- What type of cancer do I have?
- What grade?
- What are the treatment options?
- What is the effectiveness and the risks of each option?
- Where should I get a second opinion?

You can see more questions at the bottom of this webpage from Mayo Clinic https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/bladder-cancer/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20356109

How are you feeling today? If you know the type of bladder cancer you have, let me know. I can connect you with others like you.