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The Last Phase of the Caregiver's Journey...
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Dec 2, 2023 | Replies (18)Comment receiving replies
Thank you, @providence1960. For the record, I had tears in my eyes, too, as I wrote it.
I know it has been only a short time since his passing, but I long for the day when we shall meet again in Heaven, and I long for the days when I won't frequently recall the moments when I was less than patient with him. He deserved only the best. I know that I was beyond exhausted, with only one night away in over five years; however, I don't want to justify those moments where I wasn't as kind as I should have been, for that would be making an excuse. We didn't "do excuses."
I do have many wonderful memories that I cherish. I am truly grateful for his love. He would tell me "I infinitely love you in all situations," and he did just that. He signed everything to me, "IFFLU." I am praying that he forgave me for any shortcomings that I might have exhibited during our tough journey; I believe that he did just that on one of our final mornings together, when he could no longer speak, but surprised me with the most wonderful hug. He hadn't been moving his limbs for several days; it was the best hug I had received in two years. His parting gift to me.
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I think you are right about that hug. I lost my wife of 53yrs in April and I miss the hugs and hand holding and just sitting together.
There is much love and some good advice in the replies to your messages. Use your family and trusted professionals to help you through the paperwork. Try to keep up your routines and fitness and your social activity. Coffees and meals with family and friends are important as are any work activities that you still have.From chats with my friends who have also lost partners I have found that we all ‘talk’ to our missing partners as we move through the day. I have printed some favourite photos and put them around the house. In the grand scheme of things it is at times bloody awful. But at those times I get comfort from remembering some of our hugs and silly times together and that helps. My best wishes.