Hello @beckyg76 and welcome to the Head and Neck cancer group.
How quickly cancer can turn life upside down. If you search Glossectomy in the magnifying glass search about you can find recent posts by @mnmike or @rubagaddal and others, which given time people most likely will pop in on this discussion.
To see your younger brother chopped up like that has to be heartbreaking. At least the road to cure and recovery is ahead, difficult as that too can be sometimes.
Dr. Robert Schuller famously said “Tough times never last, but tough people do!” Many of us find life will never be the same again but it is still life and most of us find that in itself very rewarding.
Which Mayo Clinic are you located?