I understand! I recently had a revelation about my "spoons" - I can deliberately "save up" a few. We found ourselves in a situation where we had to wait unexpectedly for 5 days in a location while completing a transaction. We had hurried to get there (probably burning more energy that I should have.) We had no option to "go home and come back" - we were at the mercy of the banking systems in 2 countries.
So, we looked at one another and shrugged, decided to make the best of a poor situation. For 1 1/2 days, I was "used up" and rested a great deal.
Then for two days we leisurely played tourists - visiting the local sites and sampling the food and culture.
The last day of waiting, again, I rested/relaxed as much as possible - refused to be stressed out by something out of my control.
When we finally finished our transaction, the staff told us "We cannot believe how patient you all were" - but in reality, it was our deliberate decision not to spend our spoons on ranting and stressing out, but rather to trust that in the end it would all work out.
So, it all worked out, we had a few spoons in reserve for our hurried trip home (it was intended to be more leisurely), and we are still speaking to one another .
What is the point of this story? Instead of stressing out about how many spoons you have, which in itself uses up spoons, accept that some days will be good, you'll match your spoons to your activity, and relax. Accept also that some days will be bad, use the minimum number of spoons, put the rest in the drawer for tomorrow, and relax.

Now, think about your lists. Do you really need long lists of things you "should do"? Or would it be better to get up in the morning, see how you feel, and make a list of 2 or 3 things you can reasonably accomplish today. The last item on the list should be something you really enjoy and that doesn't take much energy - a short walk (even to the end of the block) a bubble bath, call a friend of family member...
Make it achievable - not "do Laundry" but "Wash and dry towels" or "Wipe down counter and appliances" instead of "Clean Kitchen"
Maybe "Spend 15 minutes sorting accumulated paper & throw away/recycle ads, envelopes, and unneeded stuff" is better than "sort and file everything" - especially if it is all piled up. You can even do that sitting on the couch with a coffee table or card table in front of you. Make filing it, or paying bills a separate task on a different day.
Remember - a list is no good if you don't do it - and a long list that depresses you is even worse - it spends your precious spoons on stress.

Have you tried to use a short list "Just for today"?
Sue