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@missudad

Hello. I am truly sorry for your loss and know so very well how debilitating this thing called grief can be as I was thrown into it 1month ago when my Dad passed away. We had only 2 weeks from when we learned of his diagnosis to when he took his last breath, and those 2weeks were the beginning of an ugly nightmare that I can’t seem to escape.

My Dad is and always will be my superhero, he was my anchor and compass, and now I feel like I’m just drifting out to sea with no clue as to what I’m doing or where I’m going…and to be honest, there are times I just don’t care. I wish I did, and am trying to figure how to crawl out of this dark place but all I really want to do is stay home (I live alone), cuddle with my dog, and cry. I’ve been taking 300mg of Wellbutrin for a couple of years now (started during pandemic) but I now wonder if it’s even making an impact.

Anyhow, after searching for a support group I was drawn to this discussion, and just wanted to say I understand 💯 where you’re coming from and want you to know you’re not alone. I’m a social worker and I give advice all day, so you’d think I would know what to do & say, but honestly, this time I’m stumped. But even if I did, I’d ignore my own advice b/c when it comes to taking care of ourselves, social workers are the worst. So this is my 1st attempt to reach out and seek answers/suggestions, and dare I say, look for help. ☺️

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@missudad Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. It is a sad and stressful time for you, no doubt, emotions are so raw. And may continue to be for whatever time they will be. We offer a gentle place to talk with others going through similar circumstances. We can learn from each other, and be there for each other.

Are there in-person grief groups in your area? Or, perhaps you want an online situation where people may not know of your professional background? We each seem to find the right combination for our situation, although it might take awhile to get a good fit. And nothing is wrong with that! Exploring options may lead you to something you hadn't considered.

For me, I wrote letters to my father, and still "talk" to him, even after 11 years. I will sometimes put myself in his shoes and the way he viewed life.

Gentle on your journey,
Ginger