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I can’t cope while my husband is dying

Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Nov 13, 2023 | Replies (22)

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@slysi

We are all given assignments in our lives from GOD . Some are more demanding than others , and we ask ...why me ... ! That is a natural question and is probably asked by the biggest amount of caregivers ! The first thing I would suggest is that you go see your husband and pray over him . If he doesn’t know Jesus , do your best to explain that HE is our way to get into Heaven . If your spouse doesn’t seem to totally understand , keep it up anyway GOD will take care of the rest once you open the gateway! That way you also can be comforted too , knowing that he will be going to a better place ! Now as for your part , caregiving is not easy as we caregivers all know ! But GOD gave some of his people the ability to do that task ! Maybe you were hooked up with your husband because you have the talent and love to do what he needs ? I have asked during a tougher day ....WHY ME .... and I feel as though I got an answer ..... BECAUSE You can do it ..,.! My wife and I have been married for 60 years and were going out for 2 years prior to that ! She needs me more than ever and I am blessed to be able to help her ! My biggest prayer is that I will continue to be her helper until she goes to Heaven ! After that I am ready for my trip also ! Stay tough !

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Thank you for your caring response. We are religious and I pray for him every day. I also ask for guidance in what I do for my husband.

@slysi I am no longer a practicing catholic but i whole heartedly believe in what you are saying about how God has given us the ability to handle the situation of taking care of a loved one during this very difficult time of our lives. I keep asking WHY ME also, and i figure it's because I CAN do it and HE knows it also. So i just do my best....as hard as it is.
My husband and I are young....62 and 58. He was diagnosed 2 years ago and it's been a rough journey...especially since his aphasia has progressed faster than I thought it would. He has a tough time expressing himself in ways that I can understand but somehow we get thru it. For better or worse and in sickness and in health has really hit home but I wouldn't trade the love of my life for anything. And yes, I am blessed to help him also!
Prayers and hugs to both of you