Hi Michael,
First of all, I’m new to the forum, so I did not see Mel’s post until now. Second, I don’t see my post as negative at all. I was just highlighting the importance of quality of life. Sexual function may not be important to some, but the loss of it is devastating to others. Sure, it may not be worth dying for, but hearing the old “just be happy you’re alive” trope feels like a slap in the face. So many here are coping with the loss of of components if life we once took for granted, like sexual function and urinary continence. We don’t need need to hear that these losses are unimportant, especially not in a forum that people turn to for support.