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How do you respond to offers of help?
Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Jun 5 11:31am | Replies (103)Comment receiving replies
I have a confession to make. There are some people, like me, who have a very hard time accepting any kind of help. I am not proud of this. It is a big problem for me. I love helping others, finding special things I can do for people, but I never want anyone to do anything for me, unless I can pay them. I also love giving gifts, and go out of my way to find special gifts that will really mean something to the recipent, but I do not like to get gifts myself. I acknowledge that this is crazy and I have offended people with this problem. I know I need to figure out what my problem is, but I just wanted to mention this, in case you have encountered someone like me. Just know that it is not you..........it is [me], or someone like me.
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@pkh3381 I am very much like you. Starting my serious health journey, back in 1987, I didn't get support from friends or family. So, I learned to get by on my own. Since then, many times empty words have been expressed, "How can I help? Let me know what I can do for you." A few times I did reach out, there was emptiness. In order to preserve my sanity and soul, I became pretty autonomous. But on the other hand, definitely someone to count on if needed by someone else.
So, you're not alone in your thoughts!
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I think it is about accepting that not only do you really need help, but that you deserve help. Those of us who ordinarily give help to others are givers, we are not takers and sometimes it is hard to reverse the role.