Hello Cowgirl. Its an overwhelming process trying to make a decision.
I will speak for myself. I did not do reconstruction on my double mastectomy. I wear cammies with bra pieces you insert. I can wear a bra with the rubber inserts. But now, I dont even wear a bra any more. On special occasions I will take the girls out with me. My husband knew when I made this decision it was mine alone. He understood and said it was my body and he said it was my choice. I met with a marvelous plastic surgeon in Dallas as said if I changed my mind, he’d be the one doing the surgery. The most important thing is to do what YOU want. I have to say, its been sooo freeing not wearing a bra. Most people dont know because of the patterns I wear. But if I feel I would look more balanced in an outfit, i just put a cammie on.
Youl knows what to do. In time youll be over the fear. One day at a time. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Take Joy!

Go to the FDA website and familiarize yourself with the risks of implants. Also research the process and risks of DIEP . It’s a tough decision but the more you know the more a decision starts to form. Wishing you the best. 🌸

@cowgirl0713, I can imagine you're overwhelmed with all the information and decision making. You got helpful responses from several members.

Have you been able to make a decision? How are you doing?