Hi Bobbi- It's nice to meet you.

In your situation, along with my suggestions, you need to speak with his doctor. It sounds as if your husband might be in a compulsive stage. There are medications that can control this. I had to give my husband an anti-depression medication that quieted those impulses. This is imperative, I think!!

My husband was never a "buyer," but he had his quirks too. I had to keep a close eye on him. The one thing that did make him angry was any attempt to take away his freedoms. Mostly, he was afraid of losing his license or being constrained.

The first thing that I did when this problem came up was to tell him that I would do everything within my power to prevent him from being constrained (unless he were to harm anyone, and secondly, if he didn't want his license taken away, then I would have to drive him everywhere he wanted to go. Those were my conditions. And for David and me, this worked because he was a reasonable man, despite his vascular dementia.

In your situation, if I had to squelch his spending you might want to take away his license so he couldn't drive, or have the bank shut off his credit cards- those in his name and get one in your name only. The bank can help with this. or a lawyer.

It's not a great situation to hang in limbo and let your husband spend to his heart's content. You must be stronger than his disease by protecting yourself against losing everything. Looks like he likes to buy a lot of things at once, don't wait until he brings home a herd of cattle and not just the ribs!

Can you talk freely with his doctor and come up with medications and plans for the future?

Merry