I know it’s difficult to see yourself at first. I had a bilateral mastectomy 3/23. Being 70 I decided not to do reconstruction, I just wanted to get the surgery over with and not face anymore surgeries. It took me a month or so to really look at myself naked in the mirror. It was a shock to see but I said to myself “those breasts were diseased and they had to go. I am much healthier without them.” ( I had ILC in the left breast and IDC and a small area of DCIS in the right breast) I think I look like a pear. Small on the top and then it just gets bigger from there with my stomach and hips. Now I am just used to it and I am relieved that those diseased breasts are no longer part of me. I don’t find the official prostheses that comfortable to wear. My surgeon’s nurse at Mayo told me about the Athleta Empower pads. They are lightweight and very reasonably priced. You get 2 for the L or R side for $10. Their website says one to wear and one for the wash. They come in a little zipper bag that you can put them in for machine washing. So of course I had to buy 2 sets, one L set and one R set. Before surgery I was a size C or D depending on the bra and I ordered the size D which I think is comparable to a size C cup. I wear them in a soft sports bra, I have some by Jockey and also one from Coobie and they have a little soft modesty insert that you can remove through an opening in the bra. Since they have that opening you can slip the Empower pad in. They are very comfortable. I buy the Jockey bras from Macy’s and the Coobie bras online. When my husband and I are having our “romantic” times I wear one of the bras with just the little modesty inserts in it. I just feel better having something covering my flat pear top and it’s very comfortable. My husband has been wonderful about everything, it’s just me feeling better about myself during those romantic times. I hope this helps you. Sending Love, Healing and Wellness wishes to you. ❤️