Hi @vimarbar, I remember my dad, who had dementia, once had a tooth extraction and did not have anesthetic because he didn't feel any pain.

Recently, I told my husband (moderate Alzheimer's Disease) that he was going for an eye exam and he said, good, he was having trouble with his right eye. He never mentioned it before and after the exam, we found out he needed a cataract extraction as he could see nothing. I had no clue! His vision seemed fine to me and he never complained about it.

As caregivers, we do what we can, but we can only do so much with the information we have. You were giving your mom the best care you could, and the disease derailed it. Don't blame yourself for not being vigilant enough.