Bless you - what a bad turn of events.
I am 73 and have previously had a hysterectomy and recently had the lower half of my left lung removed. And I do understand there are scenarios where I might chose to forego treatment for something. But for me, that call is more about my mental Acuity than an appetite for physically enduring treatment. But to be clear, I have not had serious chemo or Radiation treatments to endure. So what do I know.

How long has it been since you learned about your recurrence of
Cancer? I’m sure it was a shock. I would hope You might seek people who know you and whom you know -or even a clinician or therapist who could help work through your reactions. Your Doctor should have a resource to recommend.

I would be hard pressed to think of a more deeply personal decision than the one you describe. Because even if you reach other people who have chosen one path or the other, doesn’t mean it should influence your path.

Hang in until you get your bearings at least. I will say that today, a total hysterectomy surgery is not that traumatic. I don’t know how extensive your lung relapse is but you may have an option of a less aggressive goal. But these are discussions to have with your family and treatment team.

Warm healing thoughts are coming your way. ❤️