In that case,your husband is much younger.If he go through the necessary tests and treatments he may live a lots more years.Now a day there are choices other than surgery. I did some reading and found radiation therapy is very effective for prostate cancer and ultrasound therapy is not painful and could prolong life.My brother thinks he is 80, and he doesn’t want to go through a treatment (maybe a Series of ）.
I know your feeling I am the same.As my brother’s younger sister, my heart is heavy.What I can do is pray and give you a hug.

I am 67 and chose Proton therapy. I have 2 points to share. The first point is; I had a choice and your husband does as well. His first choice is to die slowly and likely painfully. That is a scientific fact and exactly what my first doctor told when I asked what would happen if I did nothing. That motivated my to become knowledgeable and find the very specific choice that I was ignorant about. Thus the ignorance was cured with some effort in learning on my part. Ignorance can be cured by knowledge. Finally my second point; Men can stare the risk of death in the face and ignore the risk. That is our nature. Many fine men also need a shock that prompt thoughts. Tell him (don’t ask) to write his obituary and then hang it on the fridge giving him the option of revising it as he sees fit. Good luck and God bless.