May I, very gently, say something in response? As noted in my previous comment [pkh3381], I have a depression disorder and have fought with this in relationships all my life. In defense of the victim of depression, I wouldn't say she was manipulating you, intentionally anyhow. You were just a victim of her depression, I would say. When I do the push/pull thing I referenced, when I am in my darkness, I never intented to be manipulative, I truly didn't. But, I can see how it would seem that way. When you are in the midst of your darkness, the depression truly controls how you react/interact with people. You want someone with you, near you, but then you push them away. It is as hurtful to the depression victim as it is to the person trying to have a relationship with that person. It truly is. Just saying. Now, I could be totally wrong because I am only speaking from my experience, as a depression victim, and I don't know the actual circumstances of your relationship. And I completely acknowledge and empathize with the pain it caused you in your relationship, and support you in breaking off the relationship to protect yourself. That is totally understandable and very healthy. ❤️
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