I wish I had an answer for you. This is such a personal decision and I don't know that anyone can really help you decide but we can share our stories and maybe from there you will come up with your answer. Keep reading others stories and research your type of cancer. You can't do enough research. 2nd opinions are also a good option. This site and so many other online podcasters are a wealth of information and can be so encouraging. It helps to know that you are no alone. I know it feels that way sometimes but we are all here supporting you and sending healing prayers your way. Initially I was told I needed a double mastectomy and they would biopsy the pea sized mass "after" they did the mastectomy. I said no and went for a 2nd opinion. I was Diagnosed 2 days before thanksgiving last year(2022) with invasive Lobular cancer stage 2. I had to wait until Jan 31st to finally have the pea sized mass removed from my RT breast. By that time it had moved to one lymph node. So waiting on our health care providers is quite normal. A TV commercial for a large cancer hospital in our area says "Cancer doesn't wait . . . " but I can tell you that is all I have done since I was Diagnosed. It's very frustrating and discouraging at times so this is a time for a good group of Girlfriends and sisters and family support. Above all you MUST have a doctor you trust and one with a good bedside manner who at least acts like they care. I have had both. I have learned that Cancer is not an exact science because each of us is made so very different and that can change the trajectory of the cancer and the treatment we receive. 2 people can have the same cancer and the same treatment but have 2 very different outcomes because of their differing genetic and molecular make up. Don't be afraid to ask questions of your oncologist and your breast surgeon. Ask them for the studies that they base their decision for your treatment on. Read a book about cancer. You will get your answer. It will come. Even after making up your mind it is natural to wonder if this is the right decision. Be at peace and know that you made the best decision for you. No one else can really make that decision for you. Be good to yourself during this time and know that you will get through this. Lean in to your faith and we will be praying for you to find your answer and to be at peace with it. Hugs!