in reply to @captboat I was taking another look at your quote and was reminded of a quote that I have on my refrigerator. It is from Anne Frank.

Dead People Receive More Flowers Than the Living Ones Because Regret Is Stronger Than Gratitude

No, I am not morbid and have been laughing all day because I turned 62, and in all honesty feel like I have been "reborn." Not "born again." The new Frances is now learning to be kind to herself, just as she has been so kind to others. It took me 30 years to figure this out, and I probably owe it all to my friend Joyce to whom I am caregiver, soon to be stepping back, slowly.