californiazebra, my family too. My Mom never said a thing. Only her melanoma 50 years ago. No details. Just that she had it. My sister has studied family genetics. She was supposed to share it with us, but honestly, it would be quicker for me to find it myself. She lives 10 miles from me! She is walking through ovarian cancer as sh was not willing to test after my diagnosis. She talks of grandmas and great, great grandmas. For me, I would rather have just known about our Mom.