I'm not even sure a neurologist can even advise you regarding surgery under the scope of that specialty.
I think it's great the NEUROSURGEON said to wait 6 months and then revaluate. It's really not up to you or the neurologist whether you'll have surgery or not because the neurosurgeon operates at their own decision. You can't just go in and tell them to perform brain surgery. They have to decide whether it should be done. They base this on many factors. Maybe a different neurosurgeon would have a different opinion. That's when you'd have a choice to make in this. Right now, you don't have a surgeon ready to operate at this time. The 2nd neurologist won't have an influence either bc neurogists don't do any surgery. They can't direct a brain surgeon to do brain surgery either.
How all goes well. You have 6 months to think about possible options. This forum is a great place to learn much in 6 months.
In the meantime, you can benefit from your other non surgical options. And you may possibly learn of additional non surgical options from this forum.
It's definitely scary. But the more information you obtain, the more you will feel in control of your life and the more confident in your decision-making, and the less helpless you will feel.
Sorry you have to walk this path. But with Connect, you don't have to walk it experientially alone.
Try to relax a little since you're not under pressure for an immediate decision.