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What Pets Can Do: Health and Healing
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With a broken heart, I must share with you. My daughter gives me such a hard time. We used to be so close and something happened, and she willl not tell me what, and now she is very difficult and hurtful, and I don't understand why. She just called me [this is a shocker in itself!] about something else and when I heard her dogs in the background, it brought tears to my eyes, because I used to be so close to them, and now I don't see them, or my twin granddaughters. My granddaughters are 18 now and I haven't seen them since grade school. My heart aches. Ok, I apologize. That rambling belongs in the depression and anxiety discussion group, but I just wanted to preface what happened.
Anyway, I am alone and lonely all the time, and I can no longer have a dog because of aging and health issues. When I heard the dogs, I told her that I have decided, if I can get well enough, to get a cat for compansionship. Rather than responding positively, her response was that "when I died she would not be ablt to take the cat and didn't know what she wouold do with it"! OMG! Well, I guess she had better figure it out [I told her that many rescues would take back adopted animals if the owner dies], because if I can get well enough, I AM GOING TO ADOPT A CAT! DANG! 😥
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@pkh3381 It’s some years since you posted this. I hope you did get your cat and are having a wonderful time together?!
Please update us ❤️🩹🐾.
This post is so timely. I’m currently in remission from stage 4 incurable appendix cancer. With the support of others on here last year I brought home 2 littermate puppies at 9 weeks old (after researching all the potential issues around littermates). They have just turned one and are such lovable wee souls. Not to mention very mischievous with 2 very intelligent minds working out how to have fun!!
My numbers have been shifting a bit and I do worry about falling ill again, sooner than I expected.
I thought I had made all the necessary plans in advance but I hadn’t counted on behavioural issues in my little boy Benji (he’s an anxious little boy) and just how much they both love and need me. We will work through it when I do get sick again (it’ll happen). In the meanwhile I work hard on training and bringing up 2 good members of society 🐾❤️🩹😊
I am so blessed with very close friends who are like family as well as 2 nieces and their husbands who would bend over backwards to help, if needed. My best friend and executor offered to take them both should I pass.
In the meanwhile I am fortunate to be in a good financial situation so I get by with recurring professionally supervised dog playgroups in the park and, when I’m in hospital, boarding.
Fortunately I am still very well and fit. We love our daily long sniffy walks and playing off lead in a couple of special parks where the other dogs and owners have been lovely. They are also sort of (!) good at being left alone together a few hours frequently during the week. They have a large puppy proofed TV room so they are free to play and rough house. They can still find things to chew in there despite the puppy proofing fences etc (including the carpet on a few occasions but it already was due for replacement!)
I keep reminding myself that where there’s a will, there’s a way 🐾♥️
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Just read your post and my heart goes out to you. My children no longer talk to me either and it’s a pain no mother should have to face. My kids turned out just like their abusive father. So I can relate to you both at the loss of your children and your dog. I am in the same situation as you with few people if any to talk to. I have a new service dog that I’m trying to train now but it’s difficult for two reasons. The first is she was seriously abused as a puppy and the first few months I had to just give her support and care so she would not be frightened and bite and hide. She was hurt so badly in the spine that she could barely walk. The good news is she has recovered considerable use of her legs and back and is living a fairly normal dog life now and her aggression has disappeared and she is a very sweet and loving dog. The second problem is when she was younger she got away with everything and to say anything derogatory to her she would just pee on the floor because she was so scared. So now she’s not scared but she thinks she can do everything she wants to lol and I am mostly bedridden so it’s been a real tough time trying to train her. I’ve trained animals all my life , but never had anything this difficult because of my illness. Sometimes I think she’d be better off with someone else. Because I would love to take her on long walks, but I just can’t. Although she is seems to be happy enough and I think she will as she gets older, gradually fit into a service dog role. I have a big yard for her to run in so she does get lots of exercise. Anyway, I am absolutely positive that if there’s any way at all, you will get a cat. There are so many in shelters that need homes and cats can be supportive in, many many ways. If you would like to talk to me because you are lonely, feel free to reach out anytime I am rooting for you and your future cat. If you can afford it, you can buy the machines that clean the litter boxes for you which would make things much easier. I have a friend who I have given my animals too when I die. I know this particular person will find a new home that is appropriate for any animal I might have. Perhaps you could do the same. You can specify this in your will also. Good luck with your new cat my heart and prayers go out to you.